Why Self-Confidence is the secret to success in life?

Lacking confidence in yourself can be the root cause of failure, self-belief, self-commitment, and success as a whole.

To many times, we deny that self-confidence is not as important for
achievements. If you are not sure of your competence then take a dive and those risks by stepping out of your dark room.

Believing and trusting your capabilities to excel at your fullest capacity, can sometimes be challenging, but yet so effective by giving it a try.

For instance, if you have just started a new job. The first day, first time experience in this field. You are puzzled, curious and nervous about how you are going to perform and the reactions of your boss.

This happens to most of us, the problem is how we handle this. It starts with your mindset and before stepping out of the house. The more you think and think of the results, your anxiety levels will rise, resulting in messing up things.


What is self- confidence?

A beautiful description of self-confidence by Susanna McMahon in her book The Portable Therapist (1992). Self-confidence is "a way of being in the world that allows you to know yourself and to take care of yourself ". Being aware of when you are struggling and having the strength to commit to doing something about it. The courage to uplift yourself, believe in yourself and act on your belief.

Examples of Self-Confidence


  • Valuing yourself for who you are, regardless of the blunders you make and the type of work you do or don't do, etc.
  • Feeling good about yourself, feeling worthy despite your imperfections.
  • Being strong enough to withstand your problems and be assertive.
  • Accepting the whole of you, both your strength and weakness.

Why you need to be self-confident?

Most of the people who are successful, fulfilled and happy are those people who have work diligently to be confident in every area of their life.

 Are you that person, who wants to live your dreams? Take this small step, and look deeply into your inner self and find what and where it is absent.

You can question yourself to find answers, probably you will find but if you don't. Continue reading and you will solve your problem to achieve greater heights towards self-confidence.
Growing up as a kid into my teenage years, I was always forced to strengthen my weakness. Fearless and Strong Qualities

Confidence has always trashed me every time I'm about to embark on a new task. Don't be that person. Being self-confident will automatically attract people towards you.

What you should do?

Based on the examples given above. Let's start by analyzing the basics. What you must do if you have notice confidence is missing somewhere in your life.
  • Recognize your abilities to perform to your best potential - If you are already aware of what you can do. Then utilize to the maximum. Otherwise, experiment and discover your skills and the unique you. You will see results without not so much hard work and effort.
  • Trust in yourself -  Whatever is thrown at you, facing it will be a win experience for you. Important to remember, be prepared to try and fail instead of failing to try, even at those you less or no knowledge of.
  • Give no space to past failures  This ruins the present. Letting failure from the past in your mind space will slowly bring your self-esteem to the bottom of the table.
  • Facing risk factors - As much as you know what the struggles are, going into that direction. Be bold and ready to go through every hurdle. From one to another you will eventually get there. 
  • Hugging with courage and self-empowerment -  This will boost your level of confidence. How? Because you have faced your battles with bravery, you are empowered to take on and difficulties that come in front of you.
  • Remind yourself of your wins -  Those moments and things that made you felt proud and victorious. Welcome your wins, when you need them the most.
  • Surround yourself with minded people -  Positive and people with higher self-confidence can be a great help for you, especially if you are feeling drained and empty. You can attract their energy enabling you to get back on the road of self-confidence.
  • Self-care - is a key as well. To acknowledge yourself for all your accomplishments, big or small. The time is taken to appreciate your trophies, in whatever area will help build your inner strength.

Those of you with low or no self-esteem tend to see the world as a hostile place and yourself as a victim. As a result, you are reluctant to express yourself. Opportunities and possible experiences are lost with you regretting and feeling powerless again and again.

Now that you have a vivid understanding of all you need to be confident. I want to also bring to your attention to the things you might be doing, which you are not conscious of.

Below you will find bullet points and brief explanations of those things you need to eliminate completely.

What you shouldn't do?

  • Evaluating yourself - Captioning yourself as a loser in the little things you do. This is your
    the first mistake in killing your confidence right on spot. Do this after you have carried out your work. Learn from the errors, don't sweep them under the carpet. 
  • Disrespecting and comparing - You are a unique version of yourself and not of others. Disregarding your own self because of other successes.
  • Engaging in groups - Your environment can impact your mindset, causing a drop in your confidence. The bottom line low vibrations lead to no self-esteem.
  • Cultivating negative thoughts -  Present and future outcome about yourself. Thinking again and again about the wrong things is not healthy if you've just started work on self-confidence.
  • Polluting - Your "you space" with things that will only bring you down to failure. Your little space is where you spend celebrating and moving ahead. Bringing toxic people in that private room of your's is not a good idea.
  • Entertaining anxiety -  Depression and health-related issues. We all have these, how you treat them physically and emotionally will determine you fall and raise in your confidence levels.
In concluding to all the advantages and disadvantages of self-confidence. I hope you have a brief and clear understanding, why you need to start or build your confidence level.

You will definitely feel the positiveness in yourself. Because you chose to accept your faults and foibles and grow from them. Even when you don't like things about yourself, yet you love your whole self.

If you have found value in this, please share with family and friends so the will be more confident minded people that we encounter. Together let's raise the bars as much as we can. 

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