Why Parents need to be involve in their child's Education? [ 6 Implements ]


Are you taking time out of your busy life to check up on your child's performance at school? When was the last time you sat down and have a one on one conversation with them?
 In the hustle to give them a better life, many of us, neglect the importance of being involved in our
child's academic arena.

The questions are asked, are you giving them too much leverage to explore the outer world? Are you fulfilling every responsibility as a parent? Putting food on the table, a roof over their heads and clothing their body is just the main essentials for their survival.

Now that you are questioning yourself, and trying to find these answers? Let me help you go further, as to what you are not doing and what you need to do to ensure your child is focusing on his/her studies and nothing other than that. 

The reason why I'm highlighting this is because of a recent incident I had experience with one of my students. The incident was not as expected but had to handle it with care, as it was one of my teenage students and who to blame for this? The parents!


Imagine, you are toiling 10-12 hours a day to give a better life and to send your child to school. Giving in to all their demands, thinking that they are on the right path.

Then one day you receive the most shocking news of your life. Who is the first person you find to point fingers at? Teachers right?

That's because your child spends most of the time with us. True! The teacher has full control while they are in the classroom but whatever happens after that, they have no responsibility. This is what parents are failing to accept or embrace.


Things you are not doing 

By choosing not to be involved in your child's academics and social activities, you are giving a signal to him/her that you are least interested and whatever they do will not bother you. So, in this case, they go on to make bad choices and flow in the wrong direction. Let me help you recognize the things you have been doing wrong ever since.
  1. Daily checking - What this means is that you are not routinely checking on what your child did or learn every day. 
  2. Helping with homework and revision - Replacing homework and revision lessons with friend's phone call or watching tv.
  3. One on one private conversation (Mentally and what's bothering them) - Not giving importance to sit and find out what is bothering them and if all is well at school.
  4. Attending meetings and development programs - Skipping important (PTM), extra curriculum activities and school events. More on PTM's
  5. Parental groups (Discussions to work together as parents to help your children) - Interacting with other parents, you are more inclined to step forward and work together as a group, where the pressure becomes lesser.
  6. Knowing their friend circle -  You are seeing the changes, but never care to find out what is influencing this. Some friend circles are very misleading.
After you've come to a realization, what you will need to do. Correct your mistake and highlight the strong areas you need to work on. Furthermore, start rebuilding the relationship you had with your child at the time you were pregnant. Develop that closeness and watch it grows on both sides.

What you must do

Fueling the things we want to see our child do, is not always as easy. Managing a job, a home, spouse, kids and all the responsibilities that come along, is a hassle every parent go and grow through. Below you will be able to educate yourself on what and how you can do the necessaries, to assure yourself that you are fully involved and helping your child grow.
  1. Time table, spending time with your child - Everyday, schedule an hour or more to sit and revise what he/she learned. Ask questions and help create tips to remember what was learned.
  2. Weekends with homework and researching - It best to let your child challenge him/her self to gather information and carry out their assignment surveys. It's also good when you randomly approach to assist. You will see the smiles, especially if they are having a hard time.
  3. Meetings and frequent calls to the teacher - The purpose of a meeting is to update and give an overview of your child performance, and to also to discuss areas of improvement. So do make an effort to be present.
  4. Parents group - Most schools have parent groups that they use to work together to solve existing problems, their kids are facing. By dwelling with fellow adults, you can find a better-sorted solution and work towards fixing on an overall basis.
  5. A space for you and your child - You never know what your child might be facing at school. Bullying, abused, etc. Create that space where they feel comfortable to share what is going on in their minds.
  6. Aware of what they are doing and with whom - Bad company has proven to drive your child away from the good things he/she is excelling at. A good friend can be encouraging and deceiving at the same time. Keep an eye out for those types of friends in your child's life.

A narrated incident that I mentioned I encountered a while ago. A teenage student in my class, who happens to be a girl, fooled her parents about attending Sunday classes. Which I usually don't have. Weekends are off as we all need time for ourselves.

Because her parents have complete trust in her and don't check up on her activities. She went out of the way to do what she did. Leaving her home in the early hours of the morning, claiming she is heading to classes, was not even the case. Until her mother called me at 2.30 pm to ask when classes will be over, that was when I myself found out was going on.

While talking to her mother, I recalled seeing earlier in the day at the local market, giving me a stern look with her books in hands and walking away. It didn't nudge me then, but now understanding what really was going on. Upon returning home, her mom pounced on her for answers. As she stands there in complete silence, her mom continues to scold her and a mobile phone was found in her possession which was never given to her.

The question is, are we taking this too lightly as parents? It is only when a real danger happens we start taking action. Don't wait for that time! Start now! Your child is your first and utmost responsibility. 

Conclusion 


Can you do it, with all of what you have going on in your life? Your child looks up to you as the role model, their first teacher emanating from the home, their first supporter and helper.

Don't make excuses, for the little things that will be a huge success in their future. Take time out and let your child know, that you are there and have their backs every step of the way.

If you found value in this, please share far and wide with family and friends, more specifically parents. Your comments are welcome!

Thanks for your time! 

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